Individualism??

One secret to living harmoniously is the recognition that family members are unique. Sharing a residence is no guarantee that ideas will line up.

One person may think that having a neat and tidy home is important, creating a haven and sanctuary, while another person (perhaps an oldest daughter) prefers to live in utter chaos. It is the adult’s job to compromise, recognizing that a child’s room is their space and that it doesn’t have to be as orderly and as neat as the rest of the house.

Ever proud of my powers of concession and level head, I appreciated the randomness and uniqueness of Bigsis, Then she was away and needed a bag packed. I dutifully made my way down stairs and began opening drawers….. all were empty???? How could the drawers be empty??? Twice weekly a basket full of neatly folded and laundered clothes were sent down to be put away??

So I hunted and discovered piles of clothes stuffed into a closet, further piles shoved behind the bed and under a desk. I reach into the labyrinth at the bottom of her closet pulling out bundles of random clothes crumpled and mixed with pens, nail polish, books and who knows what else?

It seemed my powers of concession may be limited, some things I could live with, but this???? Reasonable step-mom flew out the window and today she will be cleaning her room and she WILL clean it proper!!! I TOLD HER, I WARNED HER, I expect a job WELL DONE to MY standards!!

So much for harmony and appreciating individuality????